“…they shall obtain joy and gladness;
sorrow and sighing shall flee away.”
(Isaiah 51:11 )
All of us have chapters of our lives that we wish we could rewrite. Unresolved emotional pain wreaks havoc on our immune system,
cardiac function, hormone levels and other physical functions. Yet we must make peace with our past, because our life may literally
depend upon it.
To get over our past, we must start looking at it differently. Don’t just focus on what you lost, but on what you also gained. Second,
understand the difference between guilt and shame.
Guilt is feeling bad about what you’ve done – it’s healthy; shame is feeling bad about who you are – that is toxic and debilitating. All of us have things we’d like to change about ourselves, but when God created you, he loved you.
Third, stop punishing yourself with the ‘if only’s’. After sinning badly and having God pick him up, David wrote: ‘Happy is the person whose sins are forgiven…whom the Lord does not consider guilty.’ (Psalm 32).
Forgive yourself; God has, if you believe and trust in Jesus Christ.
Finally, move on from your pain. Let yourself begin to heal. There will be stages of anger, fear and sadness – that is part of the natural
process. But let them come – and go, and move on. You can’t walk backwards into the future: and the future that God has in mind
for you contains more happiness than any past you can remember.
With many peaceful blessings